50 First Dates, Date #4: The Words She Knows, The Tune She Hums
Sometimes people come into your life for only a brief moment in time to serve a very specific purpose – to learn (or teach) a lesson.
I’ve encountered a few people over the years who have twinkled briefly in and out of my life: My friends from my study abroad program in Spain, whose kindness and adventuring spirit inspired in me a zest for life and travel. Or, a reclusive neighbor in my apartment building in San Francisco who randomly gifted my roommate and I with beautiful plants and some really nice furniture accompanied by a simple note that read, “Pay it Forward.”
My date with “New York” last night was one of those moments in time.
As you may remember from Dates 1 and 2, New York also just got out of a very long relationship right about the same time as I did. I think what happens sometimes after a relationship (and I think it can be a relationship of any length), is that we lose sight of our own awesomeness. Think about it, a relationship is pretty all-encompassing (though, I think it is always important to retain your own sense of independence even if you are in a relationship for continued self-growth.) If the relationship doesn’t bring out the very best in each person – and if your partner doesn’t really think you are the very best – it becomes hard to remember what “the very best” parts about you are anyway.
Some of “the very best” parts of me were dimmed in my old relationship, and I think that was also very much the case for New York. After years of being dimmed, what we both needed was some good laughs, good conversation, good food and drinks, and a dimly lit piano bar where the entire bar joins in on the chorus of “Tiny Dancer” in true Almost Famous-fashion.
And what was great about Date #4 was that we were able to remind each other that we are both pretty awesome, and we have a lot of great things to offer to the world.
And tomorrow he moves to New York. And with that a moment in time has ended, but with a really valuable lesson learned.
New York Friend, thank you for twinkling into my life. May we both shine on.
Photo via The Dream Sky on Flickr.
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LOVE IT. Keep these posts coming girl!!
Ms. Nicole, you are my biggest fan. <3
What a refreshingly sweet perspective on dating, love and life. I’m 41 and dating (again) and only recently had a similar epiphany regarding the people who float in and out of your life. You are a bright, kindred spirit! Great blog. Visiting from SITS.